Here’s a question I received recently. It’s a long read but worth it because you will likely face this type of scenario.
I need some advice regarding a girl i just met, and i have no clue what to do now. so this is what has happened so far. i was out with some friends this past friday night at some random club, and a group of girls were walking right by us. i tapped the girl who was right next to me and used my new opener, which has been working great. “hey…my friend thinks you’re italian…i think you’re irish…who’s right?” she smiled and said “im irish”.
so we began talking a little and i asked her if she wanted to dance. she agreed and we began grinding (we were standing by the dance floor anyway). while we were dancing, i held her tight and put my face next to hers…i could feel it happening. within moments we were making out, tongue and all.
i asked her if she wanted to sit down, and we went to some nearby bench and began making out heavily, and i was rubbing my hand down her entire leg..and thigh. she asked me if i wanted a shot of tequilla and we went ahead and got one. we came and sat down again and made out for a while, and this time i put my hand into her skirt and attempted to do some finger action. she said “you know im on my period…” so i laughed and slowed down.
i asked for her number and she gave it to me. so we continued kissing for a while and talking. i asked her what she found physically attractive in a guy. she said she went more for personality, and mentioned that she was really impressed that i was in medical school.
so we were hanging out for some time and then she wanted to go see her friends for a little so i went to look for my friends. they wanted to leave the club so i called the girl on her cell and she told me where she was, and then i found her and kissed her goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “ur.sexy” and i text her asking if her and her friends wanted to go out with me and my friends. she texts me back saying something like…”definitely ..we’re down!..call me!”
so saturday comes and i call her around 5ish pm and leave a msg and she texts me back saying shes at work. we continue texting back and forth and she says shell be out by 11pm and out at the bars at 1am. so eventually late at night i call her and she tells me which bar shes at. i bring my friend along and again we talk, get some drinks, and soon start making out by the bar.
later we go for a walk around the block and make out..again..and i put my hands in her pants and she starts moaning and grinding her hips. so we continued walking and talking and kissing and time flew quick. we talked about going on a date to dinner and movies, and she seemed very excited about it.
i checked the time and i told her i had to leave (it was around 2am) at this point we’re a few blocks from the bar where her friends were at, so i tell her that my car is nearby and i can drop her off. as soon as we get in my car we start making out and i put my hands in her pants and into her vagina…i think i felt a tampon? lol. but she kept saying how she hated that she was on her period. so we stop and i drop her off by the bar.
we kiss good bye…she gets out the car..but then jumps back in and kisses me again goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “sexyyy” and “hey sexy call me tomorrow” …i reply something with like “yea we should make plans for our hot date and i want to kiss every part of your body”
so on sunday…i text her asking what shes up to..around the early evening. no reply. i call her monday night, leave a message saying whats up. havent heard back from her.
some random facts: shes like 21 or 22, studying for physical therapy, works at a pizzeria, she seemed REALLY impressed that i’m in medical school, made some references to calling me dr. mcdreamy from the show greys anatomy, and kept making references to how i must be so loaded with money just cuz i drove a lexus.
i didnt tell her that it was my parents’ car. i had a slight, vague notion that she may be a “gold digger-ish” kinda girl. did i do something wrong? should i even call her or text her again?
First, good job on at least the hookup. Not every hookup leads to sex and even if you did something wrong, there is no way to know if that something was the cause of her not getting back in touch with you. Fact is that most hookups don’t go anywhere and that’s why going for sex as soon as possible is important, which is what you did correctly.
The main thing I would have done differently is saved the vagina fingering for inside the bedroom and teased her instead to build up the sexual tension. Other than that, she was reciprocating your attention so I can’t say for sure that you were being too needy. Girls are weird, I know, which is why there is an industry now on trying to get them into bed. Just go out there and do it again.
There is no point in calling or texting her again. If a girl pulls back like that, going into her more with multiple texts and calls will just make you feel worse.
The whole point of the game, besides some cheap thrills in the sack, is to find the quality girl you deserve instead of having to settle like most guys do. I remember the time when I personally couldn’t even have conversations with pretty girls. I would just stare at them and do nothing, hoping that by some miracle of God they would come talk to me first. But they never did.
My problem was part lack of confidence, part fear, and part inexperience. Yet once I decided to take control of the problem, I sucked it up and started approaching girls everywhere like a maniac. That’s how I learned by trial and error and came up with an effective system to go from approach to bang, which I describe in my book Bang.
In Bang I teach you everything I learned about girls with a strong focus on approaching and having interesting conversation that creates attraction. Then step-by0step I tell you how to call the girl, take her out on dates, and then finally seal the deal. With my system I’m confident you will eventually meet and bang the one girl that you want for the long-term.