Email is slowly dying and being replaced by text messaging and Facebook. I don’t know many guys that solely use email as a way to hit on girls, but every now and then it has its uses.
For example, say you meet a girl but the conversation was cut short. If you know her friend, you can easily get her email address, which will be your first contact with the girl.
The number one tip that will save you a lot of frustration is this: be short. I know it will be tempting to fill in that white space on the email with attempts to be funny and interesting, but chances are the girl won’t take it the same way you intended. Since you are unable to calibrate her reaction since you won’t be there when she reads it, it’s best to lean towards the generic and safe side than going for risks.
Unfortunately it’s very difficult to build attraction in email. If you didn’t build it when you first met her, chances are you won’t ever build it. The exception is if you’re meeting girls online and she becomes attracted to you through your pictures and profile. That said, the less you try to make her like you through email, the better. So actually the less you flirt by email, the better.
The goal of email is to get her out on a date. You want to do this no later than the second email. The first email will be basic making a quick joke and saying how you enjoyed the conversation. You will wait for her reply, make a comment about it, then end the email with this:
Hey what’s your schedule like this week? I was thinking we can hang out for a drink..
That’s it! Then you just sit and wait. If she agrees, your third email will be confirming a time and place. You can also get her phone number to confirm by voice or text. The simpler you make it the better because it has the bonus of making you seem mysterious and almost shady, which girls are attracted to.
Flirting and building attraction is crucial when it comes to helping the girl decide that she wants to sleep with you. Before I knew how attraction really worked, I’d approach a girl and talk about boring topics such as work or her favorite movies, and then she would politely excuse herself from the conversation only a couple minutes into it. But now I know better. When you talk about more interesting topics, she sees you as more interesting. It’s as simple as that. With a couple additional techniques, the “interesting” is turned into strong attraction.
Once attraction is built you can get her number and take her on a date or go for the one night stand (my preferred method). I teach you how to do all this in my book Bang, which details my complete banging system with step-by-step strategies such as The Four Key Moves To Intimacy (for when you want to kiss her) and my bedroom technique for sealing the deal. And of course my book tells you how to keep a fun conversation going, whether you just met her or are on a date.